Archive for February, 2014

Sue goes home

Sue has been discharged from hospital. They will pass her on to Hospice care.
Chemotherapy hasn’t worked.
She now has malignant ascites – which is a fluid build-up in the abdomen.
There is nothing more they can do for her, other than keep her comfortable.
Oddly, once they drained the fluid (they expected to get up to 30 litres – they got just 4 – which gives you some indication just how swollen her belly is, and how uncomfortable she is) she began to feel so much better.
Which is why it came as such a shock to her when the oncologist came to talk to us (her and me) yesterday.
The oncologist – whom we are still not sure we like much – is gutted. He has tried every procedure he could think of and nothing has worked.
We are too.
The prognosis is very bad. The ‘average’ lifespan after such a diagnosis is 4 months (according to everything I can find on Dr Google), but the initial fluid build up happened very fast.
I have everything crossed that she will be able to attend her graduation on March 29. My gut feeling is that she will not.
I hope I am wrong.

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Home Early

Well, the holiday didn’t go entirely to plan.

It started well – I kept getting one-word texts … “Wow!”
They were enchanted by the beauty that surrounds us.

Then she began to feel unwell – before she left, she’d had a pain in the centre of her chest – just below her rib cage. The oncologists thought it was either heartburn (medication didn’t help), or a side-effect of the chemo (in which case a holiday was a great idea).

It seems they were both wrong and half way around the Island there was a mad dash made to Christchurch Hospital where she stayed for two days. The doctors there think it is more a surgical issue (not cancerous – which is a relief), but she can’t eat without massive pain. And because the pain is so bad, she won’t eat – and has no appetite anyway.

So they returned home last night. Tomorrow she will contact the hospital here and try to get to see her surgeon. Hopefully something can be done.

We are all scared. But, while it is sad her holiday was spoiled, it is nice to have her closer.

Thank you all so much for your kind comments about how the holiday came about. They were all the sweeter because my ‘real’ friends thought it hilarious that I would win a competition and yet get nothing for myself – completely missing the fact I DID get exactly what I wanted – a special holiday for my sister. I need new friends.

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Late last year I entered a competition on a nationally syndicated radio station. “Win a Wish for Christmas”.
My wish was that Sue would be able to visit the South Island – the only item on her “bucket list”.
I won.
They gave $3,000 towards her trip.
A stranger… a complete stranger… heard her story and was so moved he donated a further $500.
Her friends, colleagues and family donated too – money, petrol vouchers and vouchers to various attractions – whale watching, gold panning etc.
She has been blown away by the kindness she has received. She wept for days that people would think she was worthy of such a treat. She got clearance from her oncologist to take a break from chemo,
and she has been counting the sleeps till she and her husband,Nigel,were due to leave.
That day is today.
On a glorious, utterly beautiful Monday, they boarded the Ferry in Wellington and headed to Picton, at the Top of the South.
From there they will pootle their way around the Island. They plan visiting beaches, paddling in rivers, checking out garage sales and second-hand stores, picnicking their way around.
Entering that competition has already been the very best thing I ever did.
All going well, they will be away a month.

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